A 2018 Anti-Bucket List: 9 Things I Don't Want to Do in the New Year

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A 2018 Anti-Bucket List: 9 Things I Don't Want to Do in the New Year - Taylor A Mead

If there is one thing I can say about 2017, it's that it has genuinely been the most transformative year of my life.

Through various ups and downs, some in my control and some out of my control, I've realized just how strong and lucky I am.

I am strong because I have learned to face my worst anxieties, even when they felt crippling.

I am lucky because on the days I was not sure I was headed in the right direction, I had loved ones there to remind me that no matter what, it would all work out.

So, I looked back to see just how much this growth has taught me. From my learnings, I've decided exactly what I absolutely do not want to do in the new year. I give you my anti-bucket list for 2018:

A 2018 Anti-Bucket List: 9 Things I Don't Want to Do in the New Year - Taylor A Mead
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This year I don't want to:
1. Lose sight of the bigger picture.
Sometimes things in the moment are frustrating. But it's so much harder to enjoy the process if I'm too focused on that one meeting I'm dreading or the seemingly useless event I have to attend. Today is a stepping stone for tomorrow, remember that [CLICK TO TWEET].

2. Take anything for granted.
There are things in my daily life I forget to be thankful for because I am so used to having them around. I think this goes for just about everyone. Even simple things like a warm bed and running water. I want to recognize all I have to be grateful for in the new year - every day.

3. Worry about the future (whether it be tomorrow, next week, or a year from now).
Live in the moment. Focus on today and the rest will likely fall into place. If I'm not happy now, I must do something today to change it.

4. Plan too far ahead/rush.
Life is not a race, so why rush it? Often times plans change, so I'm not going to plan too far in advance. Not anymore.

5. Play it safe.
Comfort zones are meant to be broken out of and I refuse to forget this.

6. Be afraid to say no.
"No" is not an offensive word (most of the time). It's ok to not want to do something, even if it's just because I want to relax instead.

7. Take things so personally.
I don't know about you, but as I get older I become more and more sensitive to just about everything. This is not always a bad thing, but it does cause me to take things way too personally. In 2018, I'm going to practice the subtle art of not giving a f*ck (I also have to read that book) and not take things so personally.

8. Second guess my decisions.
Whether it was a decision I made yesterday or in the past, I made it for a reason. So, even if my choice would be different today, the one I already made was at one point the best decision for me, so I can't second guess that. No regrets.

9. Dwell in the past.
Life is too short to worry about that one thing I said before going out that one Friday night 3 years ago (totally not a real example...). It happened. Things happen. I know it's easier said than done, but move on.

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  1. What a cool twist on the new year bucket list posts! Loving all your anti-bucket list items!

    xo
    Sami
    The Classic Brunette

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    1. Aw thanks so much, Sami! I'm so glad you liked it!

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  2. Love the idea behind this list. I'm right there with you, when did we begin to take everything so personally? I really need to not give a fuck more as well. Just roll your eyes and let it go!

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    1. I'm SO guilty of taking everything so personally and I don't know when it started either! Definitely need to kick that bad habit in the new year. I am with you! Thanks so much for reading, Audrey!

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  3. This was such a solid list! I'm definitely guilty of taking things too personally; I'll agonize over things that really aren't a big deal at all. I'm hoping to get better about drowning out that kind of noise.

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    1. I'm thrilled you think it's a great list! I am soooo guilty of taking things personally and constantly overthink things that are said like, "what did he/she mean by that..." It's a total waste of time and energy and I'm determined to block it all out! You're right, drowning out that noise will be a total life changer. Thanks so much for reading!! xx

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  4. Love this so much!! I think this is totally true and everyone needs to make a list like this for themselves in 2018!

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    1. Becca, thank you so much! It means the world! It's definitely helpful for me and made me realize just how much I learned this year! Have a safe, healthy, and happy 2018! xo

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  5. Yes to all of these! I always take things personally, and it's something I've been working on for a long time. My boyfriend has been a huge help in it. He definitely challenges me to evaluate my perspective and understand why I think and react the way I do in certain situations. It's a journey, but I feel like I'm progressing!

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    1. Right!? I do too and it's terrible! It's so great to hear that your boyfriend helps you see it all from a different perspective. I always find talking to my friends, family, and/or boyfriend helps me do the same! Sometimes other people are the best ways to get ourselves out of our own heads! It really is a journey, but we got this! Happy happy holidays and new year!

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  6. Ooooh I like the idea of an anti bucket list! There's definitely some thoughts and feelings from 2017 that I DO NOT want to take into the New Year as well. :)

    xoxo A
    www.southernbelleintraining.com

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    1. Aw thanks so much for reading! I'm so glad you enjoyed! I completely agree with you, A! Some things just need to stay behind in 2017! xo

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  7. Love this! Really great way to remind us all to focus on ourselves and stop looking outwards for things we can do inwards. Great advice on saying NO, this is something I am going to personally work on this year as well! XOXO

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    1. Wait, I love that! "Stop looking outwards for things we can do inwards" - GENIUS! PLEASE TWEET THIS! I want to retweet! HAHA Thanks so much for reading this! xx

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  8. Love the idea of an anti-bucket list! Definitely stealing your idea haha!

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    1. Aw thanks so much! Please do! It's actually very helpful... Happy holidays, Cameron! xo

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  9. Love this post, such a unique spin on new years resolutions posts!! This makes me think about my anti-bucket list :)

    www.mollyonthemoveblog.com

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    1. I'm so glad you love it! I have found it was very helpful to write! Hoping it is just as helpful in 2018. Happy holidays to you, Molly!

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  10. I think many of us are guilty of so many things they do on this bucket list! Time to let go of a few now that I can actually see them in writing 😊!

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    1. SO true! I will definitely be letting them go! Helps to have it written down to hold me accountable! Thanks so much for reading, Sunrita! Happy holidays xx

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  11. I love this! What a great outlook and attitude you have for entering the new year. I am pinning your list to remember it!

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    1. That’s so sweet of you, Rachel! Thank you so much for reading! Happy holidays & new year to you! xo

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  12. Two tips stand out to me the most. I plan too far ahead all the time and I don't like too much change so I become stuck in dead situations. Also, I am really sensitive to the point I will get defensive of everything someone says. These are all things I am trying to work on.

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    1. Oh I am right there with you, DeAndrea! Definitely things I want to leave out of 2018. But one step at a time! Just some great goals for me to have :) Hope you have the happiest holidays and new year! xo

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  13. Awesome list-- love your take on the standard ol' bucket list. Wishing you all the best in 2018!

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    1. You're so sweet! Thanks so much, Amanda! Happy happy holidays to you! xo

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  14. I love the idea of an anti-bucket list! I've never seen anyone do one of these!
    -Nicholle
    www.nichollesophia.com

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    1. Thank you so so much, Nicholle! It' means so much! I think I'm going to keep doing them! Hope you had the happiest holidays! xo

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  15. I definetely need to work on not taking things so personally! I hope you're able to work on these things this year! Good luck on your goals!

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    1. :) Thank you so much! I'm determined! Hope you have a fabulous 2018! xo

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  16. I love this idea! I'm definitely someone who can take things too seriously - I'm just a sensitive person, which has its pros and cons!

    -Lauren
    www.shootingstarsmag.net

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    1. Lauren, I am the exact same! SOO sensitive! And you are right, it definitely has its pros and cons. But we gotta work with who we are, right? :) Hope you have the most wonderful year ahead of you! xo

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  17. This is amazing and I can only agree! My top priorities are definitely worrying too much about the future (aaaalways doing that) and playing it safe. I'm excited to see what 2018 will bring :)

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    1. Ugh I feeeeel you x 183209! I am constantly worrying, but definitely trying to focus that energy elsewhere! I read a fabulous article about fear being healthy for you. Letting yourself have fears without overthinking them is key and actually very normal! It's when we worry about the fear that it becomes unhealthy and detrimental to our personal growth and success. Linking the article here for you if you want to take a look!: https://www.thriveglobal.com/stories/16062-the-difference-between-fear-and-worry

      Maybe you'll find it as inspiring as I did! I hope so :) Have the most fabulous 2018! You got this xx

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  18. "Focus on today and the rest will likely fall into place. If I'm not happy now, I must do something today to change it." I love this so much - so wise! I'll have to keep this in mind in 2018. :)

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    1. Robin, thank you thank you! I'm so happy to hear you love it! Thanks a million for reading. Have the healthiest and happiest 2018! xo

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  19. Number 4 and 9 are big ones for me! I don’t want to plan too far ahead and I don’t want to dwell on the past.

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    1. Those are two big ones for me as well! Definitely tough to be present sometimes, but the first step to fixing something is to acknowledge that it needs fixing! Hoping to do that in 2018 :) Hope you have a happy and healthy new year, April! Thanks so much for reading. xx

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  20. This is such a fantastic post. We are always so focused on what it is we need to be doing that we forget about what we shouldn't be doing. I really struggle with the "plan too far ahead/rush" one. I definitely like your perspective, though.

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    1. Thanks so much, Carley! It means so much! These are all things I am so guilty of doing, so I'm hoping now that I've pinpointed them all, I'll be able to weed them out through the new year and beyond. I also have trouble with planning too far ahead and not focusing on the present. But we got this! Hope you have a very happy and healthy 2018! Thanks so much for reading :) xo

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  21. I LOVE this idea, we can get so caught up in what we "plan" to do! This is a great list!

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    1. Thanks so much, Adriana! I agree! I personally always end up breaking my resolutions when I make them because it's so hard to know what the year has to come and plans change so frequently! Thought it was best for me to create a list of things I know I want to avoid, because those will hopefully be easier to stick to! Plus, definitely helpful! I hope you have a fabulous 2018! xo

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  22. Love this! These things are true for me too, especially playing it safe. My word of the year is fearless and I hope it sticks. <3 Btw your jacket is so cute, haha!

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    1. I am right there with you! 100%! It's so much easier to play things safe most of the time. Here's to hoping we're both fearless in the new year! You got this :) xxoo

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  23. I'm digging the idea of the reverse bucket list! 2018 is definitely your year!

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    1. Aw thank you thank you! I am so happy to hear you dig it! :) I have a good feeling about 2018! xx

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  24. LOVE this creative spin on New Year's resolutions! I'm definitely going to be aiming for a lot of the same goals!
    Rebecca
    www.thebloomly.com

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    1. Aw thanks so much, Rebecca! I hope you reach all of your goals and then some in 2018! xx

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  25. Love this post! Such a great idea and reminder for things not to do going into the new year!

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    1. Yay! I'm so glad you loved it! I hope it's helpful for you as well :) Thanks so much for your kind words! Hope you're having a wonderful start to 2018! xx

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  26. OMG I love this idea. I need to not worry as much about the future as well.

    xoxo, Paige

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    1. Paige, you're so sweet! Thanks so much! I'm so happy you love it! I worry ALL the time, so I can definitely relate. Something I want to make more of an effort to stop before the worries spiral this year :) Thanks a million for reading! xx

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  27. Love the love post! You have some great advise

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    1. Aw thank you so much! So glad you think so! xo

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