6 Little Things You Can Take Ownership of When Everything in Life Feels Out of Your Control

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6 Little Things You Can Take Ownership of When Everything in Life Feels Out of Your Control: Taylor A Mead

So it's been a minute since I've written a post, but *surprise* I'm back with a striking realization. Why it took me so long to grasp, who knows, but I made it!

Let's first rewind a bit. 10, 9, 8, 7.... 2, 1... HAPPY NEW YEAR! It's January 1, 2018 and I couldn't be more excited. "This is my year" I tell myself — mostly because that's what everyone's supposed to say, right?

But — when my year quickly started to go downhill with the loss of my Papa, a few nightmare job interviews (yikes), a lotttt of waaaaiiiiitinnnnggg, and several other unpredictable occurrences — I thought, "Next year will be my year."

WAIT! Why next year? Why not whenever I figure it out? I think it's safe to say that no one in history has ever had a full year when at least one crappy thing didn't happen.

Like, can't this still be "my year" (whatever that means) even though the first half started off rocky? Maybe June, July, August, September, October, November, and/or December will be on my side.

What I've learned is that, while there is so much in this life that's out of our control *ahem, timing*, there is also so much that's in our hands.💡

So here's the advice I gave myself, some that hopefully you'll find helpful, too:

While you're waiting for things you can't control to happen, take ownership of what you can and harness that power to make you better, more patient, and worthy of the good that's yet to come. [Click to Tweet]

Here are the things I can do today to prepare me for what lies ahead:

Take up a hobby and set aside time for it every day.


Recently I've made it a point to invest my time in things that make me happy. Each day I set aside time to go outside and get fresh air - whether it's to play with the pups, go on a walk, sit and read, et cetera. I've found doing this regularly really makes all the difference (especially when the weather decides to be nice). Another hobby of mine, which I haven't spent enough time on recently, is blogging. So I am going to get myself back in the habit of doing it regularly.

Question for you: What are some of your hobbies?

Don't be afraid to "decline" some of life's calls when you feel overwhelmed.

6 Little Things You Can Take Ownership of When Everything in Life Feels Out of Your Control: Taylor A Mead

Life is always calling. Don't be afraid to hit decline or forward its calls when it just gets to be too much. You can choose which calls you answer, so if you're sick or just not feeling a plan or obligation, don't do it. It's ok to say no sometimes without beating yourself up over it!

Care for your body (inside and out).


Yes, both physically and mentally. Everything is linked and, for the most part, we do have control over how we treat our bodies. Of course I know everyone's needs are different, so find what meal plan/physical activity works for you and discover what makes you feel good, then do that!

Question for you: How do you care for yourself inside and out?

Here are a few things I love for my physical and mental wellness:


Pay close attention to who supports you when there's nothing in it for them. Keep them close.


Sometimes we can't control who leaves our lives, but we can control who we allow to stick around. It's important to pay attention to who supports and loves you when you have nothing to give in return. Those are the genuine people you should keep around and the relationships you should nurture no matter what.

Stay organized in all aspects of your life.


When everything feels chaotic, organization really changes the game. If your space is clean and tidy, life can really feel a little less messy. Trust me, whenever I get around to neatening things up (sadly, not often enough if I'm being completely honest), I feel so much better!

Be productive!


Whether you have a a job, you're a student, or you're looking for your next "thing," remaining productive no matter what is definitely important! Plus, it always makes me feel better. When I know I'm getting stuff done and checking items off a to-do list, I feel my best. Find little ways to be productive each day, even if it's simply tackling the dreaded email inbox that's up to thousands of unread emails or cleaning/reorganizing your room. Make a plan and stick to it!

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6 Little Things You Can Take Ownership of When Everything in Life Feels Out of Your Control: Taylor A Mead

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26 comments

  1. Such a great read girl. I always workout when I feel overwhelmed.

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    1. Thank you so much for taking the time to read, Bella! Working out always helps me feel more in control of everything! xx

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  2. I'm sorry to hear that the beginning of your year was off to a rough start but you have a positive, infectious attitude! It's really up to us to make the most of where we are and send out positive vibes. I love that you said "Pay close attention to who supports you when there's nothing in it for them." I've really had to distance myself from some people lately because the relationship wasn't equal. It saddened me but if I want to move forward, I need to recognize the toxicity and let it go. Here's to an amazing rest of 2018!!

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    1. Hi Nicole! Thanks so much for your sweet words and for taking the time out to read my post! It's so so hard to get rid of friends who don't reciprocate, but you're 100% right about the toxicity! It's draining and keeps us from pushing forward. So glad you were able to distance yourself from it! xx

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  3. I'm so sorry to hear that things were rough for a while there but this is such a great post on taking back some control over your life! Saying 'no' to things is something I struggle with too but sometimes it really is just a part of self-care and we're allowed to make time for ourselves.

    xo Deborah
    Coffee, Prose, and Pretty Clothes

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    1. Thanks a million, Deborah! Saying no to things is absolutely necessary and I'm quickly learning that as well. I'm by no means perfect when it comes to turning plans down, but it's an important step to make for self care! xx

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  4. Love this! Organization is so important and taking time to focus on yourself helps so much!

    xoxo,
    Katie
    chicincarolina.blogspot.com 

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    1. I'm so happy you love it! Thanks so much for reading it :) xx

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  5. This is such sound advice! & Welcome back!!! I lost my job in January and as you can imagine everything went wacky! Luckily, I found another remote position and is set to start in 2 weeks. If there's anything I can do during your search, let me know!

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    1. That is so so nice of you! Thank you! The whole job hunt process can be so hard, but I've been doing a ton of freelance work and have learned so much in the process! Best of luck at your new job, I'm sure it will be fabulous! xx

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  6. Rough starts are no fun, but you’re doing what too many people don’t: starting things that matter to you NOW instead of waiting for some arbitrary date (like January 1st). Such an important post!

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    1. AMEN! Love this. So so important to take control of the time you have. It is by no means easy, but it's the little steps that will get us to where we want to be xx

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  7. Some really great advice in here - January always seems like the best time for a fresh start but you can really make any day your 'January 1st'!

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    1. Exactly! Fresh starts or new opportunities can happen any day! It's a matter of being ready for and open to them :) Thanks so much for reading, Emily! xo

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  8. Being a person who suffers from mental health, posts like these are so helpful. When I'm overwhelmed, I always need to step away and give my brain a break from the things that I feel like are taking over my life.

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    1. I'm so happy this is helpful for you! I can completely relate. Of course, these posts are inspirational, but they are by no means easy! Some days I find it very difficult to get motivated to do any of these things. It's a process, but that being said, writing things down (like this piece) makes it much easier for me to hold myself accountable. It's a reminder of how I feel when I do get these things done. Hope this really helps you as well. Thanks a million for reading, Tiffany! :)

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  9. These tips are so important! I need to start keeping this in mind.

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    1. So glad you found them helpful, Kaitlyn :) Thanks for reading!

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  10. Welcome back to blogging! This post is such a great reminder of how time management and self care really does affect every aspect of life! xo Rach | http://www.rkcsouthern.com

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    1. Aww thanks so much, Rach! You are SO right. They both affect life and figuring out how to balance is key! xo

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  11. What a great blog post topic! I agree on staying organized! That make my life was less chaotic.

    Xo Mindy
    amixofmin.com

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    1. Hi Mindy! Thank you so much for taking the time to read, it means so much! Organization makes life sooo much less chaotic for me, so I'm happy to hear you can relate :) xo

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  12. yes to the people who love you for you - and don't need anything for it!

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    1. YES! They're the only people we need in our lives, right?! Thanks for reading, Tara! xo

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  13. "Don't be afraid to "decline" some of life's calls when you feel overwhelmed." THIS. So hard to do at times, but so necessary!

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    1. Agreed! It is NOT at all easy and I still have to remind myself to not feel bad for doing it. But it is so important for our wellness! Thank you thank you for reading, Alexis! Xx

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